Saturday, November 20, 2010

Are Black women too loyal for our OWN good?


As a black woman, I feel like I've been looked at as many things...one thing in particular is LOYAL. Black women are loyal to their soil....period. You see it allllll the time: a chick will be with a dude(a nigga) who takes a cut of HER paycheck,lives in HER house,cheats on her left and right,and for some reason or another, she can't/ won't leave Ray-Ray alone.Why is that? I can say from my OWN fucked up,personal experience, that no matter how bad a situation with a dude gets,it's not as easy as it seems to leave a dude(a nigga) alone.Black girls may be a lot of things, but when it comes to relationships being a "quitter" isnt one of those things.We are the "ride or die" chicks Ja Rule rapped(sang)about,we will hold our dude(nigga) down....even when the shit doesn't make any sense. How many times have you heard about a chick (black chick) catching her dude(nigga) cheating,and instead of going straight to the source of the problem(that no good nigga), she goes STRAIGHT to the other woman, as if it's HER fault and NOT shady ass Ray-Ray.I don't get it, but in some ways, Im pretty sure Im guilty of it too(Ive never fought over a guy,but I've DEF held some "Ray Rays" down to the fullest)I've never dated outside of my race, but sometimes I question:How can so many Black Women NOT date outside of their race?? Sometimes guys(niggas) can be SUCH a turnoff and no matter what they look like,a lot of times,the shit that they let come out of their mouths cancels out any physical attraction that couldve been there (smh).Just a few days ago, when I took my son to get a haircut (one of the few times where I am immersed in Nigga culture,these days) I watched/listened to these guys talk about things ranging from:buying a used Cadillac even though he didnt have a job because it was "CLEAN AS FUCK,DAWG",to how one dude there had a girlfriend who he was dealing with, but was trying to get at one of her friends because the friend seems more "Bout it" and lastly, some other guy inquiring if anybody had that "New Call of Duty Shit".....NO ONE in the place had ANYTHING that was even BORDERLINE intelligent to say.....nothing. "Niggas are stupid" thats all I could think.If those group of guys(niggas) represent the A-typical Black Male in America, where's the attraction??Bitches LOVE Niggas...it's that simple. I just feel/felt like the ONLY thing that could keep Black Women to sticking to the "Ray Rays" of the world is:LOYALTY.Black MEN have NO problem straying from their race,but Black WOMEN are extraordinary in their dedication to the Black Man (nigga)...no matter how many ups and downs she goes through with/for Ray Ray,she will NOT change team colors, she will put up with the simple mind of the Madden obsessed,Rap music bumping,Polo rocking,look at ur home girl's ass on the slide,African American Male(niggas).Why are we so loyal to our race,when a Black Man(nigga) will openly flaunt his love For Becky,Maria or Kim-Lee??WHY?? Black Men are genetically encoded to be "cool"...there are many stereotypes about Black Men(Niggas) but through it all, Black Men(Niggas) are even STEREOTYPICALLY considered "cooler" than any other race...hence the white guys who listen to Gucci Mayne,the mexicans who are so immersed in the black culture that he starts calling his mexican friends "nigga" instead of the traditional "foo" or the asian guy who dresses like Kanye or is covered in tats like Weezy....I get it.NOTHING'S cooler than a Nigga. Some black women DO date white guys...not the Paul Wall type of guys who may as well be black(niggas) themselves.Im talking about the Vegan guy who likes to go camping or hiking.I honestly have never met a HOOD chick actually fall for this type of guy,though. I think a part of what attracts Black Women to Black Men (Niggas) is the fact that we can kind of relate to them on certain levels. So why is it that a Black Woman who's been played by 7 different niggas since she was 16 continues to seek out a "Fine Black Man",whereas a Black Man, thats been done dirty by ONE black girl in middle school,will EASILY run to a white girl?I honestly think it's something embedded in Black Women to want to "be there" for a Black Man(OUR Black Man),no matter how much of an asshole he is.Some DNA encoded loyalty gene that gives goon ass NIGGAS who sit around in barbershops talking about the dumbest shit,shot after shot. I don't get it , but I aknowledge it.I don't respect it, but I accept it.Hopefully some of the Black Woman's loyalty will rub off on our Black Men, that way we can have a valid reason for holding them down the way we do.