This post may be a little backwards to some, but should make perfect sense to others. Recently(about a week ago) I was having a conversation with a friend that I've known for a while and we were on the subject of guys; the 2 guys she is dating, in particular. She was telling me about how she was having problems with one and how the other one was perfect and how for some reason, she was waaaaaay more interested in being with the "fuck up". She was saying how she doesn't know what to do to get him to become the man she wants him to be, yadda yadda yadda. She said how when they argue(mostly about dumb shit)she doesnt know how to get her point across WITHOUT sounding like a "bitch" or "nag" and she said how she was vexed because the feelings/emotions that she has towards him were not planned....they "just happend" and how she tried NOT to get too emotionally involved in their "situation"....she THEN said "I wish I was like you(pause) you have game" I was thrown by this...I hit her with a LOUD "WHAT?!?!" she said it again "you have game" I asked her what her definition of "game" was and she pretty much described it as being able to keep guys interested,with or without sex. I didnt like the way it felt to be told I have "GAME"...I have PERSONALITY....HUGE difference.When I hear someone say that they or someone else has game, I associate thet with being fake,superficial,phony,a fraud,a liar,an oppurtunist,EVERYTHING I'M NOT. When I told her there was a difference between having game and having personality, she got quiet as if I offended her (maybe I did)but to me, it's true. She went on to say that I "must have something, cause I know at LEAST 3 dudes that originally were trying to holla at/fuck u that havent fucked yet and STILL call u to check up on you,STILL wanna hang out and do shit EVEN THOUGH they know they will probably NEVER fuck"......she got me with that one.The shit is true...lol BUT, I think that point takes it back to MY original point, I have PERSONALITY...no guy in the WORLD would call,wanna take out,chill with,even fuck with a girl he wasnt boning,WAY after the facty,IF she didnt have "something"...I guess I have that "thing"but I am not misleading with my shit. If I don't plan on boning you, you will know....PERIOD. There is a difference between someone u havent boned YET and someone you will NEVER bone...and I think each guy knows their position...lol The difference between myself and a lot of OTHER chicks is that, quite frankly;I'M NOT EASY....thats it. My standards are set kind of high(compared to those of those skeezers who you can buy dinner,pay her a few fake ass compliments and be in her panties by the end of the first date....SECOND date,MAX) I know my worth and whats more, I know what I DON'T want,and I KNOW how sex can complicate things.....I know how sex (even amazing,mind-blowing sex) can only keep the interest of a man(EVEN a "good" man) for so long. Men(REAL) men want depth almost as much as women do.I NEVER want to be seen as a joke,a quick bone,a jumpoff,another notch in a man's belt,ect......so I don't act like one.Maybe PERSONALITY is the new "Game"(thats that 2012,futuristic type shit..lol)but for NOW,I would MUCH rather be seen as a chick with mad personality than the chick with mad game....just a personal preference of mine.To all the females/men who actually have game(you know the type; the ones that can sell ice to an eskimo,the type that can hand u a picture of the BLUE sky, talk to you for 2 minutes and have u swearing that shit is purple)Do you1(Pimps and Pimpettes,REJOICE!!)BUT for those of us rely on PURE,UTTER,RAW,UNCUT,OFF COLOR,QUIRKY,RANDOM,OFF BEAT PERSONALITY, I tip my hat to you and say "Power to the People"*Black Power Fist Pump*
XOXOXOXO J Bellz
